Why Should I Be Devalued?

sad women Why do we always settle when we know we are worth so much more? Could it be that we have been treated as less than for way too long, that we do not appreciate our own true value? Maybe its a past relationship that has mind fucked us into believing that being second best is better than being last.  Maybe its because we always put our relationships and children first leaving very little for us.

I just have one question for you to answer. Do you enjoy being devalued?

I say hell no, fuck that! I want to be treated with the same respect and purpose that you do. I say give me the same raise you gave small dick Fred in accounting! Just because I wont let you rub my thigh on a business lunch doesn’t mean I do not deserve the promotion I earned.

Okay, maybe I had a long day at work or even a long work week, and seem to be irritable at times. That don’t mean you have to run to the first piece of ass…..talking about I ain’t giving you any attention. The fact is, I’m here taking care of our kids, cooking our meals, and washing your dirty ass clothes! Hell, if your lucky I might give you a little nookie, if you act right for once.

Ladies this is a call to arms. It is time for us to stand up for ourselves and let our voices be heard. “I am woman here me roar”!!! It’s time that we start putting ourselves first. We shouldn’t have to take a back seat to anyone anymore. IT IS OK!!!  At some point, you have to draw the line when you constantly sacrifice your happiness or your self-worth by pleasing others. You can still be a good mother, lover, and have a great career. We CAN have it all! So take it without any regrets!


Will You Fight For Me?

mother and sonI recently had a reality check the other day. I asked my eldest son would he fight for me. Do you know what he said? “Well mom, you have lived half of your life already”. Really! Are you kidding me!? Geeesshh……

I immediately started to evaluate myself and analyze my past to figure out if in any way could I have enabled this thought process.

Growing up in an urban city, surrounded by gangs, violence, and drugs, I developed a natural instinct to protect my mother. I knew once I was able to have children of my own, I wanted better for them. Of course, we all do.

So when I became an adult and starting having children, I decided to move across town. We picked a location with clean parks, good schools, and quiet neighborhoods. It was very hard for me to adjust at first, but my daughter did not miss a beat which confirmed my decision.

With that being said, my children (I now have 4) has never experienced the same things my husband and I went through growing up. A bad day for them may have been standing in the corner with books, or writing sentences. I am sure they have stories for days about how creative I am with how I discipline. You gotta keep it fresh, ya know! Once a child gets use to the same thing over and over they will get bored and it would become standard like everything else. Oh, and yes….I do whip ass if I have to!

Overall, it was just a question I was curious to know the answer to, which brought other things to the surface. I would never question the love my children have for me or put to test any type of theory to contest their love because I’m sure it is unconditional.